9 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved

Perhaps you were brought up to believe it’s selfish to love yourself. Maybe you loathe yourself because you don’t live up to your own or other people’s standards. Loving yourself is not selfish; it is essential. Isn’t it time for you to recognise all your unique qualities which make the world a better place?

Self love is the key to truly loving others, enjoying better health and opening up opportunities that will lead to success and a better life. There are science backed benefits to loving yourself and understanding the science behind self love can assist you as you take your first steps on the journey to becoming your own best friend and loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved.

Believe that you deserve to be loved

Mental chatter which focuses on your failures and berates you for mistakes you’ve made in the past can convince you that you don’t deserve to be loved. Make the conscious decision to love yourself from this moment on.

Replace your negative self judgement with positive uplifting reminders that you are worthy and deserving of love. Studies have shown that self-affirmation increases self-compassion so quash the negative voices with some passionate self love affirmations that will change the way you see yourself and boost your self esteem.

Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself for any bad decisions you have made and move on. Dwelling on the past can destroy your confidence and lower self esteem making it harder for you to feel loveable.

Right now is the time to leave all your regrets behind and move forward on your journey of self love.

Be kind to yourself

How you would behave towards a friend who was going through tough times? Probably with kindness and compassion. Lavish as much praise and empathy on yourself as you would give to others. Stop bullying yourself and focus on your best qualities.

Take better care of your mind and body

Listen to your inner self as it usually knows what you really need as opposed to what you think you want. Self -care means taking responsibility for your mental and physical health from the inside out. A diet full of natural goodness will nourish your body and feed your mind. Relearn how to love food as eating well will increase your energy levels and help you to respect your body. Regular exercise boosts happiness and positivity as well as rewarding you physically. Remember to make time for a little self pampering too, as this will further boost your self esteem.

Ditch toxic friends

Negative people can get in the way when you are trying to cultivate self love. Choose to spend your time with positive uplifting people who will boost your happiness and delight in every success that comes your way.

Steer clear of friends or family members who gloat over your mistakes and seem to derive pleasure over the suffering, loss and misery of others. Let go of toxic love and unhealthy love relationships.

Set boundaries

Loving yourself means learning to say no sometimes. Whether it’s an unreasonable amount of extra work, an activity you don’t enjoy or something that conflicts with your personal values; remember it’s OK to say no.

Practice mindfulness

Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future prevents you from living in the moment and loving yourself right now. Even a short session of mindfulness meditation can give you some much needed time and space to focus on loving yourself and improving the way you relate to yourself.

Start your journey to self love right now

Loving yourself isn’t a one off event. It’s an ongoing process which requires commitment to showering yourself with kindness and compassion. The 30 day challenge to loving yourself is a great way to begin treating yourself with the self appreciation and affection you deserve.

Celebrate what an exceptional person you are and remind yourself of all the benefits you bring to those around you. Be prepared to embrace the exciting new opportunities that will arise as you start loving yourself, as these will lead to the wonderful life you deserve.

Invest in a life coach who will nurture your self love

Changing long held beliefs and learning to love yourself can be tough. A caring personal coach will encourage you to accept yourself as you are and help you to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved. For support in learning to love yourself unconditionally Reach Out